Bringing The Fun Back Into Wedding Planning
Q: I have no desire to plan my wedding right now, how can I bring the fun back into it?
A: When you’re in the thick of wedding planning, it can be super easy to lose steam. The fun can especially get sucked out of the process when the fate of your date is up in the air. There is a bright side though—you have the power to bring the fun back into planning.
How, you ask? Here are my top three tips:
1. Don’t Do It Alone
There always seems to be one person in an about-to-be-married couple that tends to take the reins on wedding planning. Not shockingly, that can start to feel a little lonely—and being lonely is no fun! The solution: Ask for help.
Your partner is in this too, so don’t be afraid to turn to them. Make planning a team effort by talking about the big day—and giving them a say. These conversations can be fun in and of themselves! Pour a glass of wine, put your heads together, and divvy up tasks to turn your wedding visions to reality.
With your partner and you captaining the planning, it’s time to expand the team. After all, I’m sure you also have friends or family that would be so excited to play a role. Is your mother-in-law a foodie? Review the menu with her. Does your best friend have a keen eye for fashion? Let them take the lead in researching wedding attire. Does your aunt have a green thumb? There’s no better person to chat flowers with. Asking people to give insight into something they are interested in is a surefire way to get the help you’ve been needing.
If that’s still not enough support, there’s no better time to call a wedding planner (shameless plug!). They can walk you through the to-do list, take the less-fun tasks off your plate, and hold your hand through the process.
2. Celebrate Every Win
Wedding planning is a marathon, not a sprint. A path paved with a series of small tasks that come together to create the perfect day. And with so much to do between proposal and party, it can be easy to become too focused on the prize and see the process as a long, drawn-out slog until you cross the finish line. My advice: change your perspective. Because every single detail you nail down can be a chance to celebrate.
The moment you find the venue where you can imagine saying “I do!” Squeal in excitement!
The moment you pick your wedding date. Shout it from the rooftops!
The moment you sign on the dotted line for the photographer. Jump for joy!
The moment you nail down your decor. Soak it in!
The moment you taste your menu. Cheers to it!
You can’t get these moments back, so enjoy them! instead of moving straight to the next task, celebrate the one that you just accomplished. This is where the true fun of wedding planning is!
3. Make An Event Of Every Task
As a wedding planner, it’s not surprising that I like to make an event out of every single thing that I do. And you can too! There are planning tasks that can either be super boring or, when made into an event of their own, can be super enjoyable.
Take, for example, building your website. For many couples, this seems like a necessary but complicated and unexciting task. But it doesn’t have to be! To address the complicated issue, there are countless wedding website templates out there that make set up as turn-key as can be. But, still, it can be boring if you let it. So, instead of sitting blurry-eyed at your computer cursing your website, make a night of it. Curl up with your partner and do it together. Reminisce on past memories as you pick your favourite photos and enjoy hearing each other’s side as you write your love story. Laugh together as you write silly descriptions of your wedding party. Learn about each other’s favourite things to do around your venue as you put together local information for your guests. Doesn’t sound so boring now, does it?
And you can do this for everything! Building your guest list. Picking wedding songs. Creating a timeline. Coming up with your signature drink. Each of the planning tasks you tackle are what you make them! So, why not make them fun?
